Should you do a first look on your wedding day or not?
A First Look is a term in the wedding industry for when the bride and groom see each other for the first time on the day of the wedding, before the ceremony. The concept of a First Look has only become popular in the last 10-15 years or so, but it’s something that more and more couples are considering for their wedding day.
There are pros and cons to doing a First Look – it’s really a personal decision for each couple. Some couples feel that it makes the day more relaxed and intimate, while others worry that it will take away from the emotion of seeing each other for the first time at the ceremony. There is really no wrong answer, but I’m here to show you what’s possible when making your decision.
If you’re considering a First Look for your wedding day, read on for some pros and cons to help you make your decision.
First off, What is a First Look?
A First Look is a moment that a couple shares before their actual wedding ceremony, where they see each other for the first time in their formal attire, all dressed up. Usually, the couple is alone during this time with their photographer present to capture those first intimate moments. The idea of a First Look began as a way to alleviate pre-wedding jitters and provide a special moment for the couple before the hectic day begins. It is not a tradition but an alternative approach to the traditional wedding format.
The Pros of Doing a First Look
One of the significant advantages of doing a First Look is that it allows the couple to share an intimate moment alone before the wedding ceremony. They can share their anxiety and excitement with each other while having a chance to clear their minds in a private setting. It also provides an opportunity for both partners to express their emotions without worrying about the guests watching them. Having the first Look allows the couple to finish their formal pictures earlier, which frees up some time for them to attend cocktail hour with their guests. Some guests travel long distances to attend the wedding, and it allows the couple to spend some more time with them. Additionally, Having more time for photos will help the couple to get more creative shots and some stunning photos.
The Cons of Doing a First Look
One of the most common cons of doing a first Look is that it may take away from the overall emotion of meeting each other during the actual ceremony. Though, you will still experience this, but just privately. Some couples feel that “the magic” of the moment is lost when they see each other before the wedding event. Some may argue that breaking down the tradition may also create disappointment among some of their families, but I feel as though most families just want their kids to be happy.
A First look comes with schedule constraints that could make the day more stressful. It can be challenging to coordinate everyone’s availability, and this may result in a delay in the ceremony, which could cause unnecessary stress for the couple. Furthermore, some couples have mentioned that they regret not waiting until the ceremony to see each other because it created a more emotional and special moment.
My suggestion for whether or not to do a first look
As a wedding photographer, I have been fortunate enough to capture many couples during their first Look moments and can attest to the beauty and intimacy of this moment. It is a very personal decision and depends solely on what the couple wants, but here are my suggestions. Firstly, if the couple desires a private and intimate moment together before the ceremony, then they should go for it. Doing so, they will have more time for photos, and they can enjoy their cocktail hour with their guests, which reduces some stress.
On the other hand, if the couple is more traditional and prefers to wait until the ceremony to see each other, then they should stick to that. The ceremony is a very emotional moment, and they do not want to take that away. It is essential to remember that these photos are memories that they will treasure forever. Again, there really is no wrong decision and it’s a very personal one so you should only do what feels right to you.
Advice for your First Look Photos
First Look photos are a beautiful and emotional moment for both the couple and the photographer. It is important that as the photographer, I capture your personality and emotions during this moment. It is my responsibility to ensure that I capture the raw emotions of you as my wedding couple. For First Look photography, choosing the right location is essential. The location should be private, quiet, and intimate, providing a relaxed atmosphere for you.
Also, timing is essential to ensure optimal lighting and to allow enough time for pictures. All in all, whether or not to have a First Look is a personal decision for each couple. It has both advantages and disadvantages like many decisions, and the couple should consider both before making their final decision. As a wedding photographer, I suggest that they think about what’s important to them and what kind of emotions they want to feel on their big day.
To see some more elopement resources for your wedding day, check out some of these to help you plan your big day!
Top 10 ways for your wedding to reflect your personality
How to plan an airbnb Elopement
